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Congrats.
js

Wow, your dress cost less than 1% of what many cost, and looks nicer! Congrats!

Hillary, this is great news. Congratulations... May you and Steve have years and years of happiness together in the lovely little town of Ypsilanti. -Mark

Dear Hillary & Steve, First I want to congratulate you both on your marriage and wish you nothing but happiness now and in the future.
Hillary, Just to let you know Leslie has no Idea that I am writing this. She just E-Mail me to let me know you got married. But while I got your ear, I have something to get off my mind. I don't know what happen between you two, it's hard for me to figure out what exactly it is/was that you feel is so unforgivable that you can't resolve the issues and become friends or at least on speaking terms. At one time not so ago I can remember you two were very good friends at least I thought so. I myself have learned over the years that life is too short to harbor such ill feelings toward anyone. Harboring bad or ill feeling can take a lot out of ones personality and leave little room for warm and happy feeling for others around you.
In closing I sincerely wish you and Steve all the best and hope you and my wife can one day resolve your issues as it makes me very unhappy (As I know it does her) to see two lovely human beings at such odds with one another.
Respectfully
Garth

Congratulations! I thought my husband and I had a low-key wedding (almost exactly six months ago) but this puts ours to shame. The best of luck to you.

I'm interested in your perspective on the name-changing. I changed my name when I was married after a lot of thought; I couldn't stand any form of the hyphenated name and I also prefered a "family" last name. (My last name was Sharer and his is Kerr; I often suggested "Sharker" as a compromise but no one but me thought it was funny.) When I'm not thinking about my in-laws the traditionalism of the new name doesn't bother me, but when I get a letter addressed to "Mrs. Brian Kerr" I tend to flip out. Anyways, is it something you devoted a lot of thought to or was it a fairly easy decision?

Congratulations you crazy kids!

Thanks everybody!

I think that dress is older than I am. The size on the tag is 4 sizes bigger than all my other clothes. I was really lucky to find it.

That's a tough question, Liana. Not changing it had crossed my mind, but I've always intended to take my husbands name. Mostly, I think sharing a last name is unifying and romantic and always will be.

It would make sense to keep my maiden name if I had a reputation or business connections, but I'm not concerned with either of those. I think some women retain their last name or hyphenate in an attempt to retain their pre-marriage identity or independence. I'm my own person to a fault, so I'm not really worried about that either. The last reason I could think of was that other people that buy into stereotypes might think differently of me, but what do I care? I think it's funny when people assume things about me.

I'll snicker any time I get something that says Mrs Steven B Cherry on it. Speaks volumes about the sender. Who does that anymore?

Congratulations.

i was all ready to soundly trounce you for using my name clarification point. but since you gave me props, now i can't be mad.


i'm happy for you guys...congrats and warmest loving wishes for all good things. and a damn good time, too.

Your dress is so elegant and such a nice color--kudos for finding such a gem at VW!
I decided to take his last name too. His son was part of the mix--and his son had yet a different last name that I thought it'd help to glue things together a bit instead of having 3 people with 3 last names. You're right not to care about what assumptions anyone might make about you. At any rate, congratulations again!

In response to "who does that anymore" ... Anyone who thinks your husband's name is, just as a matter of course, better than yours. Meet my inlaws. :) Thanks for your reply.

Congrats! May your life together be as low-stress as your wedding. What a great way to begin.

First-time poster (and fellow Ypsilantian) here: Congratulations on your marriage! Re the name-changing thing, I kept mine and I *still* get mail addressed to Mrs. John Sindelar. So be prepared. ;-) I do enjoy being able to honestly say 'No' when telemarketers ask if Mrs. Sindelar is there, though.

Congrats! What a great wedding.

I can't believe that dress was only $4.10!! I'm going to value world tommorrow and see what I can find.

Congratulations!

Welcome, Kristi! I'm not bothered by "Mrs. Steven B", but knowing that it bothers so many other women, I'm not going to let that one slide. I'll have to work on my response plan.

To an amchair psychologist like me, your in-laws are facinating, Liana. I don't know what would happen if someone I knew stopped using my name. You're a saint.

Amazing but true, Jessica... Dresses are some of the most expensive items there. If you wear something conducive to trying on clothes, there's really cool stuff to be had. All the older clothes have the "wrong" sizes on them and get passed over in the speed shopping that prevails at Value World.

Not to change the subject, but Value World is SUPERB for halloween costumes because you can find all those wonderful vintage dresses and other clothes....

From a friendly arbourblogger - congratulations!

Rob

Congratulations!